I just visited my family in Colorado for the Thanksgiving Holidays, using the loving-kindness exercise really came into play for me. There was a little drama that develop from past experiences between my sisters, I used meditation exercise( Dacher p. 68) to resolve some issues as a mediator. It worked wonderfully, and I was left with a real sense of accomplishment. I then went to the assessment exercise(Dacher p.115). This helped me to really dive deep into my subconsciousness and evaluate my feelings about the incident and the stress levels it caused in my life and family. I realized that before I would have let the incident disturbed me and push to leave and withdraw from it all. But I found myself pushing towards the problems with solutions of peace and love. This development certainly shift me into a new level of integral health, with a new approach to stresses that comes to create havoc in my life. I felt renewed and powerful.
Using a space to contemplate and refocus your energy can give you a profound source of awareness to overcome dilemmas of stress. Loving-kindness practice will give you that energy and Integral Assessment helps you in developing awareness of the source of the stress and how to overcome it. I will incorporate these two contemplative practices on a daily basis. Walking in loving-kindness will help me toward human flourishing. I found that out this past week.
Best in Health,
Gilda
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Hello Gilda,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your post and how it influenced your life. That is really great you were able to use it to resolve conflict. I didn't get much from the exercise. However I am going to continue to use it. Especially since you got so much out of it. I am going to work on my interpersonal growth. I feel like I want to continue working with the loving kindness exercises and truly flourish in this area. I need to be able to love completely whether it is my family, friends, enemies, or anyone.
Gilda, for me it was timely that we were learning about the loving kindness meditation this week- I too spent Thanksgiving with family, and like you, there is some past drama that keeps rearing it's ugly head. I live far away from my family, so I don't get entangled in the drama, but I do find myself being the peacekeeper. In fact, I will go out of my way to make family members feel comfortable in uncomfortable situations.
ReplyDeleteIn the past, I used to stress out about going home, knowing I would have to encounter the drama, but this time felt different. Sure there was still drama, sure there were uncomfortable situations, and sure I still went out of my way to be a peacekeeper... but it felt better this time. It felt like I had accepted my role to love everyone, and make everyone feel welcome. Learning these lessons we are studying, and using the meditations really put me in a place of acceptance with my family.